The Bachelor

I have to admit, I watched the last hour of The Bachelor last night and then the after the rose hour. Actually I watched while carrying on three conversations on Facebook and one with Lori.

If you watched, you know that Jason picked Melissa, then decided they weren't right for each other, and now has asked Molly to reconsider their relationship. Are you surprised? Even mad?

A thought. I am amazed at how the women cannot understand the decisions Jason makes and they cry and cry and cuss and cuss. Melissa just couldn't understand how Jason decided the "feeling" wasn't there and that he may be in love with Molly after all. Don't forget this is a game. It is a game played to narrow a large group of potential spouses, in this case ladies, down to one in a very short period of time. And these two are supposedly to marry and spend the rest of their lives together. It is a game and everyone knows the rules from day one. Someone wins. Someone loses. A game.

And its reality TV. The problem is that reality TV is the farthest thing from reality there is. This is make believe. And in make believe, you play games.

Did God design marriage to be a game? I don't think so. I believe God designed the marriage covenant to be the result of a relationship built on love, not a game played which manufactures love. You cannot manufacture a relationship that is to last a lifetime. It has to be nurtured and built. Definitely not a game where you literally pick and choose over several one night, or one weekend, stands. Relationships are ruined by playing silly games. Godly relationships which result in a covenant of marriage are developed as two people learn each other and grow together in love.

I'm not surprised at all that the Bachelor is in a mess. It was designed to fail.